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with David Ellis
A Holistic Approach to Mind, Body and Spirit
Choosing the right Help
Things to consider when choosing someone to help you.
Choosing a Coach, Consultant or Therapist can be a daunting task, because this relationship must be based on Trust and Non-Judgement because of the Vunerability it raises.
According to experts in mental health practice, who the therapist is as a person is one of the most important variables influencing the success or failure of therapy. In other words, the therapist’s personal qualities mean just as much – if not more – than his or her professional skills.
When you are seeking a therapist, it can be helpful to ponder what personal qualities you value in this kind of provider. Here are some characteristics that research has shown are important:
- Courage – Therapists need to be vulnerable at times, admitting their mistakes and imperfections and being willing to take the same risks they would expect clients to take.
- Willingness to model new behaviors – Therapists teach largely by example.
- Presence – Therapists should not being distracted, but instead be fully attentive to what is going on in the moment with their clients.
- Goodwill, genuineness, and caring – Having a sincere interest in the welfare of others is essential to being an effective therapist.
- Belief in the therapy process – Therapists need to believe in what they are doing in order to facilitate meaningful change.
- Openness – Therapists must be willing to reveal enough of themselves to give clients a sense of who they are as a person.
- Nondefensiveness – Therapists should be frank and nondefensive when faced with criticism from clients. Otherwise, clients may receive the message that openness and honesty are not really valued in the therapeutic relationship.
Cultural awareness – Therapists need to be aware of the cultural issues that may impact the therapeutic relationship.
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